To your parents about dating


With no hesitation, the daughter said, “You have sex.” With all kinds of thoughts reeling through her head, the mother asked, “Where did you hear that? In an informal survey of teens, many of them stated that they have never had a conversation with their parents about dating other than curfew and expectations concerning drinking and driving.” The little girl told her mother she had heard it at school from her friends who heard it from their older siblings. Many parents have the belief, “nobody talked to me about dating and I turned out pretty good so what’s the big deal? Look what happened to "Lauren" (not her real name) when she dressed for PE the first day of school.

” Studies show that teenagers crave intimacy and adolescents are beginning to date at earlier ages.

Today, the average age for a person to begin dating is 13. Research has shown that serious adolescent relationships before either partner is emotionally mature can have detrimental effects for identity formation and even life and health.

Even if it seems like everyone around you has paired off, you want to go out with someone for the right reason -- because you really like that person.

"The motivation to be drawn to this person is based on who they are as an individual ...

"Have you had a talk with yourself to say, 'Am I comfortable with kissing somebody, holding their hand, undressing to a certain level, caressing? These are decisions you need to make ahead of time -- not when you're in the middle of a make-out session and your date is pressuring you to go further.