I would feel less sexy, and my commitment starts to become a prison and not a positive choice in my life. It just seems so strange to put so much pressure on something that seems so spontaneous to me: sex.
And then, if the sex was good enough or we feel connected somehow, There is just first sex. ) But if you don’t have sex first, you build up too much pressure.
You think someone is attractive, you give it a try. You start thinking, Yes, but we don’t connect sex with ethics or morality or values in general, you know?
There have been many studies about how French people don’t care about the sex life of our president, or if a person is unfaithful. Now, if my boyfriend and I have an agreement, that’s important.
But I actually see a lot of my friends who are a bit older than me, maybe 40 or 45, who are always renegotiating the boundaries of their relationship.
Headquarters CFCV (Collectif Féministe Contre le Viol) 9 Villa d'Este 75013 Paris CFCV is a collective of feminist organisations against rape.