No relationship can be optimally navigated without an adequate understanding of each partner’s “weak spots.” The inferior can be problematic because it is both alluring and underdeveloped.
It is like a child who desperately wants to get behind the wheel of a car because driving looks like so much fun.
“Canned romance,” such as receiving the same bouquet of flowers every year come Valentine’s day, is apt to mean little to INFJs, who are quick to differentiate the “real and authentic” from the “fake and contrived.” For INFJs, romance is cultivated on a daily basis through open communication and authentic action.
What is done on special occasions is merely icing on the cake.
This typically stems from INFJs’ tendency to extravert Judging (Fe).