It sounds to me as if you need someone who can stand by you, give you courage, and hold your hand a little bit.
You might consider calling the local domestic violence shelter.
He's leaving me without transportation and with four children to care for. I'm very isolated, he won't provide me with a phone, friends aren't allowed to visit me, and I need to find a way to help myself.
Brette's Answer: You need to get some help and support.
If you or your children are in danger, you need to call the local domestic violence shelter and get help.