If you are not ready to do that, and if she doesn't understand it as well, then you should find a Christian or Hindu girl, they make up 10% of the Indonesian people so it's not that hard to find.Age Gap: The age difference, quite common in expats/Indonesian girls’ couples, is less a problem than one could imagine.
- If she asks you money for her family, take the matter seriously.
Visit them, and make sure that everyone is doing its share too, including all the relatives.
Expats dating Indonesian girls are numerous, and many will find that though certain aspects of their relationships are much easier than with a western girl, there are also some difficulties that men need to take seriously if they want to be successful.
I listed the 4 main hardships expats have to overcome when dating an Indonesian girlfriend: Money: Dealing with the gap in revenues between you and your Indonesian girlfriend is not an easy task.
Even if she is not that religious, chances are her family is, and they will not tolerate anything but a Muslim wedding.