It would have been a shame if she truly had to wait 15 years, right? For me something casual would be painful, cause its kind of a false distance that you have to know how to manage and maintain.
“I thought the recent strange behaviour and care with his phone was because he was planning a big surprise for our anniversary. “It was too complicated a set of feelings; the fury, the devastation, the rehashing of our lives together in the middle of the night, questioning every lovely moment we’d shared.
It was a blur, but I emerged eight months later a stone heavier and feeling like I needed to do something to move on.” So Elizabeth tried online dating and, while she says it certainly had its frustrating moments, after eight months she met Andrew, 51 and they are planning to move in together in time for Christmas.
And since most online dating sites allow you to search according to different criteria, you can focus on what’s important to you. Sending someone a quick message saying that you saw their profile and wanted to get in touch is a great way to get the conversation started, and much easier than going up to someone in a bar!
Dear Eliza, Sorry to say, but there’s not really a one-size-fits-all answer to this question.
You need to process all the sh*tty emotional stuff or you’re going to carry all these negative feelings into your next relationship.