You and your partner are more different than you think—especially if only one of you has ADHD.
And just because you’ve heard it all before doesn’t mean you’ve truly taken in what your partner is saying.
This impulsivity can also lead to irresponsible and even reckless behavior (for example, making a big purchase that isn’t in the budget, leading to fights over finances). Many people with ADHD have trouble moderating their emotions.
You may lose your temper easily and have trouble discussing issues calmly.
The non-ADHD partner complains, nags, and becomes increasingly resentful while the ADHD partner, feeling judged and misunderstood, gets defensive and pulls away. Once you are able to identify how the symptoms are ADHD are influencing your interactions as a couple, you can learn better ways of responding.