In the case of The Sex Talk, clearly, “approach and tone” are everything.It’s one thing to say, “Mom, I heard you’re dating again.My last Huff Post blog about this topic set off a stream of comments, some asserting that I was being condescending.
Many years ago your mom or dad probably had “the talk” with you. By asking questions and listening more than talking, she shows her date she is interested in him.
Perhaps over your teen and young-adult years your parent(s) initiated many talks about love, dating, sex and the selection of a life partner. She also gets to know more about him to decide just how interested she is. To your parents’ distress, the ability to get an erection was probably never an issue for the pimply-faced teenager you dated.
If your parent is at the point of seeking a physically intimate relationship, a discussion with the doctor might be in order. According to England’s Family Planning Agency (FPA), the number of reported cases of STDs among 50-to 90-year-olds has more than doubled in the past decade, perhaps due in part to the availability of drugs mentioned previously. If your parent is recently divorced or widowed remind them (as they may have frequently reminded you) that it’s not wise to jump into a relationship too quickly. If your parent is looking to meet potential love interests online, remind them things aren’t always as they seem on the Internet and to beware.
Remind dad (or mom) to always carry along a condom. While most counselors recommend waiting at least a year to remarry after a divorce or death of a spouse, your parent, understandably, may feel that life is too short to wait around once they have found, “the one.” No, you can’t tell your parent what to do in matters of love, but it may be helpful to remind them that while loneliness is not good, spending the rest of their life with the wrong person is worse. More serious than a date who lies about his age or other details is one who is a threat to your parent’s safety.
If your parent is recently widowed or divorced, or has decided after some time of singledom that it’s time to look for love, here are 7 pieces of advice you may want to offer for dating in the 21st century. Today, a pay phone is a rare find and a couple of quarters just won’t cut it if Mom needs to call for help or a ride home. Now it’s time for you to broach the subject of modesty with her. If your parent has lived alone for a while, it can be tempting to talk when she finds a listening ear.